Give Yourself A Break

Dear Friends,

It's often said not to settle for anything less than your best. In general, settling is not good. You don't want to settle for a relationship that could be toxic. You shouldn't settle for a job you hate if there are other possibilities.

But sometimes, lowering your expectations is a good thing. When we have impossible expectations, we set ourselves up for failure. Instead, we can have both realistic and hopeful expectations. This isn't settling; it's adjusting to give yourself a break.

I recently had to adjust my expectations for myself. I am taking a trial advocacy class this semester, which has a final project of conducting a mock trial. Due to many hospitalizations for various illnesses this semester, I was only able to attend one of the weekly courses leading up to the trial. Additionally, while other students were able to practice in groups for weeks prior to the trial, I was too ill to attend these practices.

I had the final trial last night. I had prepared diligently on my own. I was nervous, but I was also confident in my preparation. Even more, I prepared myself for the situation by reminding myself about all I've gone through this semester. I walked into the courtroom with adjusted expectations; I still held myself to a high standard, but I also gave myself some grace.

Giving yourself grace by adjusting your expectations is important. We aren't superheroes, no matter how hard we try. Sometimes there are extra challenges in life that cause us to be less able or less ready for situations. Give yourself a break today with a little grace. Then, you can hope for all the possibilities in life with a blanket of peace for your heart.

Graciously,
Sara